Have you always felt shy around girls but want to stop feeling that way? Are you a socially awkward and shy guy by nature? If that is the case, then fret no more, for in this article you will learn about the 3 simple steps you can take today to stop being shy around girls.
Being shy around girls is something that is completely normal. Every guy feels a little anxious and nervous when they are around the girls they feel attracted to, but most guys tend to be able to take a deep breath and get through it, and slowly get comfortable around girls over time. If you are such a guy, then this article is not for you.
But if you are the kind of guy who breaks out into cold sweat, and feel completely anxious and scared around girls just by thinking about it, then this article is for you. And not just for guys, but also for girls who might feel inhibited or scared towards the opposite sex.
So what is the first step you would have to do to stop being shy around girls?
1. Overcoming Your Inferiority
From all of my past cumulative experiences with dealing with shy guys and girls, I have realized that in most cases, the main cause of shyness is actually because they feel inferior. If you somehow feel that you are of less value than the person whom you are interacting with, then you would naturally feel shy and nervous when you are around her.
A simple way to illustrate this would be to imagine a plump or unattractive girl whom you know of. When you are around this girl, do you actually feel any sort of anxiety or nervousness? In most cases – most probably not. There may be a little bit of anxiety, but it would be nothing compared to what you are feeling when you are around a girl whom you are attracted to.
When you are around a girl whom you are attracted to, you just seem to be unable to be yourself and become a shyer person than usual. This is completely normal and there is nothing wrong with that. But if you really want to get past this issue of shyness, then you have to stop judging people based on their looks. Don’t be intimidated by the beauty of the other party, after all, they are also normal human beings just like you!
This is a very common problem especially more so with guys. It is natural for guys to be attracted to a particular girl based on just looks alone, even before the guy has even gotten to know that person. If you want to become a less shy person around the opposite sex, then you would need to adopt an attitude of “What else can she offer?” Is she able to offer you something else other than her looks? I am pretty sure you can find plenty of hot and cute chicks in this world, but to find someone whom you can really have fun and “click” together – that’s not an easy task at all.
2. Stop Being Attracted to Just One Chick
This is something that all shy or socially awkward guys seem to have in common. These guys tend to have a tendency to just single out one chick who just show them even the slightest interest and then think about them all day long.
Because these guys are socially awkward by nature, they do not get much attention from other people, especially from the opposite sex. Therefore, when just a person from the opposite sex looks at them for a longer period of time or just talks to them, they would think that this girl is completely interested in them and then obsess about her all day long.
And this is a huge problem, as by constantly thinking about her in your mind, you have made her up to be such a perfect creature that when the opportunity comes to really talk to her in reality, your mind completely freezes up because it would be running through all the bad things that might happen to you and her. In simple terms, you have become too emotionally invested in her before you have even started.
3. Be Assertive
Let us all face it, guys are supposed to be the ones who make the first move. No matter how shy you a guy you are, you definitely have to make the first move, for girls will not do it most of the time. This has been the case since ancient times.
If a girl is really attractive, the chances are that she would be wooed by more than one guy, and someone else apart from you would be interested in her. If you do not make the first move, then someone else will anyway.
Therefore, you need to learn how to be assertive, especially on yourself, and take the first move whenever the chance appears. Even if you get rejected, treat it as an experience and you will feel a lot better and confident the next time you try it on another girl.
There is nothing wrong or to be ashamed about if you are shy around the opposite sex. As long as you can accept this first and then learn how to face it, I am sure that you will definitely be able to get over it in no time at all. If this article has helped you, then you might want to check out the remaining articles on How to overcome shyness, so that you can become the kind of confident person that everyone likes!