The number one question that often pops up into the heads of people are socially anxious or shy is that whether shyness is genetic or not. People who have lousier social skills often tend to feel sorry and unjust, as they do not understand why they cannot be like normal people who just seem so confident without any problem at all.
If this is a question that you have always pondered about, then you definitely really need to read this article carefully and absorb it thoroughly, for you will finally find out about the real cause of shyness and social anxiety and whether it is possible for you to become the confident guy you always wanted to be.
Of course, if you want a quick answer, the answer is NO! Shyness is not really genetic. In this manner I mean that shyness is not something which you are not able to change, and that shyness is not “in your blood” or something that you have to cope with and live with for the rest of your life.
The other way to answer this question of course is that YES – shyness is partly caused by your genes. This would explain why some children seem to be a lot more shy than others.
Does all of these sound really confusing to you? Well, after reading the next sentence, you will slowly to begin to understand why.
There is No One Single Cause of Shyness
It’s close to impossible to answer something like whether shyness is genetic, because shyness does not originate just from one single reason or one single area in your life.
The reason why most people are shy are usually caused by a variety and mix of factors that blend badly together. This could easily include your genes, your past bad experiences, the country you have been living in, the type of friends you made, and many other more.
But what I want you to take back from all of these is that being shy or socially anxious is not something that is fixated in your genes or body, like a disease that you cannot get rid of. Even though being shy might have been partially caused by your genes, there is definitely a lot you can do to get rid of it.
Is Shyness A Personality Trait then?
This is a very important distinction and clarification you have to make to yourself. Shyness is definitely not part of your personality, and this means to assume shyness as who or what you are.
Think carefully about it, has someone ever mentioned to you that “You Are Shy!” And you took that to heart and slowly assumed that you are shy, which literally means you are the sign of being shy. This is very bad for yourself and your subconscious mind as you will slowly begin to believe and change your actions to fit this belief.
Instead of treating shyness as a personality trait, you should treat it as something you feel. After all, there is no way that you can be shy all the time. You are definitely not shy among some of your bestest friends!
Shyness can be changed!
Now that you have realized the truth, do you feel as though that a huge piece of load is now off your chest? If you have always thought that you will forever be stuck with this problem of shyness or social anxiety, the first thing you have to do is to change that thinking.
Shyness is actually a kind of behaviour that you have learnt slowly over time, due to a number of different factors. And since it is something which is learnt, it can definitely be unlearnt, just that it might take a bit of time.
Therefore, give yourself some time and first accept that there is nothing wrong with being shy, and then proceed by taking the necessary actions to get rid of it!