Have you actually realized before that your parents or family might be actually the ones who are causing you to feel some of your social anxiety? If you are wondering what I am talking about, then first start by asking yourself these few questions:
Do you sometimes feel a bit shy and awkward when your family is around?
Do you feel weird when you are with your friends outside and meet your parents by chance?
Do you feel awkward talking to someone of the opposite sex, be it on the phone or face-to-face, especially when you know that your parents are watching?
Simply put, do you feel awkward doing something that you would normally do when you know that your parents are actually watching you or around you?
If the answer is yes, then your parents or family might be one of the reasons why you are suffering from social anxiety or shyness.
Here are some of the reasons why this is the case:
Main Reason 1: You Care About What Your Family Think
This is a pretty straightforward and understandable reason. Even though most people care about what other people think of them, people who suffer from social anxiety worries more about what their family thinks of them than anyone else. This is because they are probably the closest ones to you apart from the very few friends you have.
This is completely natural if you only have a small group of friends, and you feel that they are the only ones that are judging you in your life. To avoid this problem, it is best for you to try and get out of your house more often so that you do not see your parents as much in your own home. By having a larger social group of friends, you would not care so much about what your parents think of you anymore, but your friends instead.
Main Reason 2: You are Worried That They Would Notice Your Changes
If you have always been a shy person at home, and seldom talk to your parents, you might be afraid of suddenly becoming more confident and talking more often because you might think that your family might feel that you are weird. But one thing most shy people don’t understand is that your family is, after all, your family, and would not be bothered that much even if you change, as long as it is for the better.
Main Reason 3: They Know That You’re Shy and You Know That They Know That
It is pretty difficult to change the opinions or beliefs of someone that they have built up over the years of yourself, especially your family. Since they know that you are shy person, and you know that too, then you would always be trying to live up to these expectations in front of them. This over the long run would be negative for you and cause you to be unable to break free from shyness or social anxiety.
The easy way out for this is the same method as before, try to get out of your house as much as possible and enlarge your social group of friends. This way, you would not be bothered as much as what your family thinks of you, and be able to break free away from your shell.
Getting over shyness or finding a proper cure for social anxiety is not really as difficult as how most people make it out to be, as long as you understand the psychology behind it and the main causes. Start becoming the confident person you have always wished that you would be!