As we all know, having a lack of self-confidence or self-esteem is usually the main reason why people do not do the things that they really want to do. Often, they are held back from doing the things they had always dreamt of just because of low self-esteem.
For instance, you might have always wanted to take part in a long distance marathon, only to ditch that idea and give up on it because you feel that you would not be able to complete it. The funny thing is, you feel that way even before you have started training for this long distance marathon. This is a perfect example of a lack of self-esteem or self-confidence.
Boosting Your Self-Esteem
So what can you actually do in order to boost your own self-esteem? Here are few simple methods that you can start doing in no time at all in order to boost your own self-esteem today.
You might not understand what this exactly means at first, but it is actually pretty simple. Acceptance basically just means that you should accept the plight you are currently in and be grateful for all the things you have.
We, as humans, are often very greedy creatures and always think of the things we do not have. Many a times, we would rather compare ourselves to someone who is a lot better off than someone who is worse off. For instance, if that particular guy has a huge mansion and a car without doing much work in his life, you would be constantly thinking why you cannot be the same as him.
But by doing so, you are actually putting yourself in a negative position as you are constantly feeding yourself with the belief that you are not good enough as that guy, therefore you do not have what he currently owns. From this alone I believe you can see how damaging this actually is, and you should definitely stop doing it. Instead, try to accept yourself for who you are, and be grateful and appreciative for everything you have right now!
2.Make more friends
A lot of people often do not realize that their surroundings and environment actually play the most part in moulding them into the person they are today. If you are always hanging out with friends who are very negative and often criticize you, how do you think you would eventually feel or become after some time?
This is not to say that the friends you have are currently bad, but if you are suffering from a lack of self-esteem, you can be sure that at least one of your friends are negative by nature. You do not have to disown this friend or not hang out with him anymore if you realize that he is the negative one, but just need to be more alert when he is being negative and learn how to not let it affect you. Garbage in, garbage out.
3.Take pride in what you do and accept compliments
People who lack self-esteem or confidence are usually also very shy in nature. When they receive compliments and praises for things they have done well, they tend to keep pushing them away. You may think that this is called being humble, but it can actually severely damage your own self-esteem and self-confidence in the long run.
As long as you are being praised or being complimented for something you really have put in effort to do, take pride in that work and accept the praises and compliments instead of pushing it away. As you start to accept more praises and compliments, the better you would feel, and the level of confidence you have would start to shoot up greatly. Remember though, do not end up being an arrogant bast***!
4.Do more charity work or volunteer work
By helping people who are less fortunate than we are, we often expose ourselves to the harsh realities of this world. When we start to realize how much better off we are as compared to some other people, we will start to learn how to appreciate ourselves and the things we have a lot better. This would also help us to get rid of the negative mindset and thinking that we are not good enough.
5.Manage your emotions
Unconfident people are usually also very bad at controlling their own emotions. What this means is that whenever they start to face a difficult problem in life, they would often turn on their negative feeling meter and start to feel a lot of anger and frustration. This would cause them to be unable to focus on their task at hand, and eventually be unable to complete or overcome that particular problem.
And as they start to accumulate more problems that they are unable to overcome, you can definitely be sure that this lack of self-esteem and self-confidence will slowly start to seep in.
And there you have it, the 5 simple steps you can start doing today to boost self-esteem or to regain back your confidence. Of course, there are a lot of other methods and techniques, but these are the five which I feel are the most important and helpful for anyone who is suffering from a lack of self-esteem right now.
I hope that this article has helped you in some way or another. The last thing is that I have also realized that unconfident people usually also suffer from social anxiety and shyness sometimes, so if you do not know whether you are suffering from them you can check out this article to find out whether you have social anxiety or not and how to cure social anxiety.